Finding the mate you require…Instead of the mate you think you want
By Bill Scalzitti, The Coach for Romance
Before we begin exploring new relationships let’s spend some time thinking about relationships we’ve been in, analyzing their patterns, and how this information can help us figure out a new road and a new way to define what we’re looking for.
It’s been said that we bring about the results in our life based on what we vibrate - the frequency upon which we live - and since most of us have not yet found our ideal partner it’s important that we spend a little time discussing it. A couple of years ago I was organizing a men’s group at a Community Center in New Jersey. We had 12 men show up for the first meeting, and before the meeting began I asked the group why they came and if anyone had something they wished to share. One fellow raised his hand and asked a question - I want know why women consider all men to be ‘jerks’. Another raised his hand and said - “Why are all women crazy.” These are two very powerful questions because they focus on the consciousness of men and women in the single’s world.
You attract what you believe in; so if you approach the single world with these beliefs or ones similar to these, and you find the same result over and over again, you need to change your belief system.
Does anyone know the definition of insanity? It’s doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. That’s what many of us are doing in the dating world - we are on a merry-go-round and can’t find a way off.
You attract what you vibrate
Believe it or not - you are the reason you keep attracting the wrong people into your life. The reason I say this is that we attract people to us who are of like vibration. An example would be if you’re very happy, and someone comes into the same room that is down, you instantly feel no attraction to that person. You would like to get away from them because you and that person are not vibrating on the same frequency.
This example shows a contrast in vibration: when two people meet who are vibrating on the same frequency the attraction is positive. Because “like vibrations” attract, if the vibration that you’re putting out is filled with doubt, negativity, mistrust, insecurity, insincerity and 100 other negative emotions you will attract into your life people with the same negative vibrations.
Many of us have great concerns about meeting the right individual, or loving the right individual when we meet them, and often these concerns turn into worry. You can’t worry and love at the same time - they are different vibrations. Worry limits positive thinking; it sets up negative vibrations and becomes a self-sabotaging situation. The more you worry the more you resent and the further away from love you become. Then you begin to try to change or manipulate the situation often only making matters worse.
So let us work on changing our mindset to positive and see what that brings. Need help, just ask.
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